Being a Peacemaker vs a Peacekeeper…Which One Are You?
Conflict, division, disagreement, offense is a part of living in this world. Whether within our families, workplaces, or communities, we face situations where conflict exists.
When it comes to dealing with conflict, which one do you tend to be…one that does all they can to keep the peace, or one that works with others to restore and make peace?
Just reading that, which one sounds better?
Which one would you rather be and do?
In the beatitudes, it gives clear direction that, “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called children of God.”
So, what does it truly mean to be a peacemaker, and How does that differ from simply being a peacekeeper? While both may seem similar, the heart of the two roles is significantly different.
The Difference Between a Peacekeeper and a Peacemaker
- Peacekeepers often avoid conflict at all costs. Their focus is maintaining surface-level harmony, even if it means sacrificing truth or avoiding necessary but uncomfortable conversations. Peacekeepers fear disruption and may prioritize temporary calm over long-term solutions.
- Peacemakers, on the other hand, courageously step into conflict with compassion, wisdom and understanding. They actively seek reconciliation, truth, and restoration, even when it’s difficult. Peacemakers aim for true peace—the kind that reflects justice, mercy, and grace.
Being a peacekeeper might feel easier in the moment, but it can lead to unresolved tensions and deeper problems. A peacemaker, though, does the hard work of healing relationships and fostering genuine understanding.
3 Attributes of a Godly Peacemaker
If you’re ready to embrace your calling as a peacemaker, here are three attributes to develop, rooted in practical wisdom:
1. Pursue Truth with Love
Peacemakers know that peace cannot exist without truth. And we need to keep in mind that truth is best delivered with compassion. This means being willing to address issues directly and honestly, but always with understanding and grace.
- Peacekeeper Trap: Avoids speaking up to keep everyone happy, even if it perpetuates a wrong.
- Peacemaker Action: Humbly confronts issues, seeks clarity, and builds trust by addressing concerns lovingly.
Practical Tip: Before addressing conflict, seek wisdom and ask yourself, “How can I communicate in a way that honors and respects the other person?”
2. Prioritize Reconciliation Over Being Right
A peacemaker’s goal isn’t to “win” an argument but to restore relationships. As peacemakers, we’ve been given the gift of reconciliation.
- Peacekeeper Trap: Chooses to suppress their own needs or opinions just to avoid rocking the boat.
- Peacemaker Action: Looks for solutions that bring mutual understanding and healing, even if it requires humility or personal sacrifice.
Practical Tip: Focus on the relationship instead of the resolution. When tensions arise, ask, “How can I strengthen this relationship, even if we disagree?”
3. Be an Instrument of Peace
True peacemaking requires a higher power sometimes. On our own, we may slip into defensiveness or escape into avoidance. But when we rely on the higher power of God, we can approach conflict with the fruit of the Spirit: love, patience, kindness, and self-control.
- Peacekeeper Trap: Relies on their own strength, often leading to burnout or frustration when peace doesn’t last.
- Peacemaker Action: Invites God into every situation, trusting Him to guide their words and actions for His glory.
Practical Tip: Begin every difficult conversation with prayer. Ask for His help as you reflect and seek His love, grace, and wisdom while navigating the conflict.
The Reward of a Peacemaker
Jesus promises that peacemakers will be called children of God. Why? Because when we work to bring true peace, we reflect the heart of our Heavenly Father. God is the ultimate peacemaker, reconciling humanity to Himself through Jesus Christ.
When we take up this role, we not only bring healing and restoration to others but also draw closer to God’s character ourselves.
A Challenge to You
Are you carrying a heavy burden as a peacekeeper, avoiding discomfort, or moving with grace as a peacemaker, pursuing true peace in your relationships? This week, take a step toward peacemaking. Whether it’s a challenging conversation or offering forgiveness, lean into the wisdom as you sometimes let that higher power work through you to bring peace into every situation you face.
Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called children of God.
